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Saturday, April 5, 2014

What Do You Say; what can you do?

 

I’ve been asked the past week if I had given up blogging.  The answer is no. Hopefully,  there will be things to blog about again, in the near future.  The past three weeks have been a whirlwind of emotions that put the blog on the back burner.  Some of you have experienced the same within recent months.

While at Gunter Hill campground, we received word that our neighbors wife, the wife of one of my best friends, had been diagnosed with intestinal cancer.  The prognosis wasn’t good, and we returned home rather than continue to spend more time on the road. 

Someone we talked with many times each week,  drank coffee together, went out to eat most Friday nights. Just plain good friends and neighbors.

She goes for a doctors visit complaining of abdominal pain, six weeks ago.  Diagnosed with inflamed diverticulosis. 

Two weeks later a scope and surgery reveal cancer.  That’s the week we were in Alabama.  This past Thursday she died.  The funeral was today.  Six weeks!!

What do you say to her husband, her children, her grandchildren?  The common phrase’s such as; “ you’re in our prayers,  thinking about you, we’re here if you need us, etc.”, seem so empty. 

I’m sure that time will begin to heal the ache in the heart of her husband of 47+ years, along with the children and grandchildren.  But until then, what do you say, what can you do??

11 comments:

  1. Oh my. It is hard to come up with "words". Being as good of friends that you have been is the best thing. I myself was wondering if you two were okay. Thanks for letting us know.

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  2. I don't think there is anything you can say that means as much as being there for them if needed. Press on, my friends.

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  3. You can't really say anything, Jerry. You can just be there.

    I am so very sorry.

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  4. We've been there Jerry and it is so hard knowing what to say--just our presence seemed to help at times.

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  5. It's hard to come up with words for you two....know you're grieving. My thoughts are we just live each day to the fullest, giving thanks for all we have in the present and honoring the beautiful memories of the past.

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  6. Such sadness and loss...my heart aches for all of you. May you find strength in your friendships...cyberhugs!! Xo

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  7. Jerry, At a time like this just being there for your dearest friend speaks so much louder than words could ever do. Let him lean on you as needed...that is what we are here for. Our thoughts go out to you, Wanda and your close friend and neighbor. In all things, God is in control!

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  9. My thoughts and prayers go out to you, Wanda and your close Friend.....Best Friends are somewhat like stars you don't always see(hear) them ...but you know there are always there...I'm sure your Friend knows he has your shoulder and friendship...without you having to say or do anything.....take care....Horst sends

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  10. I am so sorry to hear your news. Life is really rough sometimes. I'm sure your being there has been a big help and support for your friend and the whole family. Hugs to all of you.

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  11. It is so difficult to realize the shock and suffering your family friends are dealing with at this time but because of your deep friendship they know they can count on you when needed.... That is such a blessing for them.

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